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Why aren't we talking about social health?
Rising rates of loneliness, unprecedented rates of separation and divorce, a drastic decline in meaningful friendships. We need to talk about…
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Being in a state of constant chase
Many of us feel like we aren't good enough when we aren't doing enough. Constant chase keeps us chronically pursuing goals without ever feeling a sense…
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Releasing the need for control
Unraveling the control paradox— how we manage our fear of not having control by trying to gain more of it. How to release our need to be in control and…
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Asking For A Friend - Volume 01
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Co-regulation— the missing link
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Keeping up with appearances
It’s exhausting to pretend like everything is fine and perform as if you have everything all figured out. Sometimes the pressure to keep up with…
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Absorbing everyone else's emotions
Untangling the threads of enmeshment. How to build emotional autonomy, reclaim your own emotional identity, and curb your tendency to take on the…
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Breaking free from being busy
From chaos to calm. Letting go of our need to be busy, dropping the busy identity, finding stillness, and taking off the busy badge.
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The illusion of effortless wellbeing
"Everyone seems to have it all figured out!" "Why can everyone do it but me?" Moving beyond picture-perfect and resisting the performance of wellness…
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Co-regulation— the missing link
Exploring the magic and power of co-regulation, where one calm enough nervous system calms that of another. Plus, why your attempts at self-care may not…
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Being calm is not our default mode
Look on the bright side! Smile more! Just take a deep breath! Healthy humans are not just meant to be calm, happy, and relaxed. Our true nature is to be…
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Striking the perfect match
Shining a spotlight on the gamification of modern dating-- hook-up culture, dating apps, situationships, and how swiping for love is changing the future…
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Just trying to help.
Just trying to help.
Weekly notes for managing stress and building better relationships in modern times.
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